The Debate Over Marriage

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What began as an effort to lift the stigma surrounding homosexuality has resulted in sowing the seeds of destruction in the entire culture. This effort has, as it’s founding principle, the idea of total equality of the sexes and the total a eradication of genetic and hormonal differences. What it is doing, however, is completely destroying The Family.

The Family is the ‘Building Block of Society.’ A concept rooted in the history of mankind and regulated by both religion and government for the betterment of everyone involved. In America, The Bible and Christianity has been the foundation upon which our society rests. The government has stepped in to Regulate marriage for Health Reasons.

In most (all?) jurisdictions the Marriage License is executed by the one Officiating The Ceremony. That License is then mailed to the Health Department of the jurisdiction in which these folks were married. A permanent record of who married whom and when, it serves as a hedge against marriages which would threaten the health of the community. Siblings marrying or Parents marrying their children or First Cousins marrying, etc.

This is a system that has served us well for over 200 years. The question becomes: “What has changed that this is no longer necessary or important? In New York comes a report of a young woman, estranged from her biological father for 12 years, who is now planning to marry him.  [ Jan. 2015] From several quarters come complaints that if 3 people love each other they should be permitted to marry: 3 women, 3 men, any combination thereof.

The ‘Genie’ is out of the bottle. It will not return without a major shift in society. With our desires driving our laws, we are embarked on a road to serious moral and social destruction. Why? Because The Biblical Family Structure is critical to a society’s survival. It may be messy. It may have serious problems. However, the biblical family structure is critical to children, to parents, to the society at large and to the culture. It is the Central Building Block of Society.

In our society children without a strong family structure generally don’t do very well. They do not get a good education. They do not learn how to live as an adult. They have no reason to hold off on sex or violence or crime. They do not have anyone in their life to challenge them or support them. The statistics speak for themselves.

The Bible lays out a Pattern for Family. It tells us that the best situation is 1 woman and 1 man, committed to each other, supporting each other, protecting each other….sometimes from themselves and honoring God by living up to the standards and principles He has laid out for a godly family.

A man accepting responsibility for the care, support, stability and protection of the family.

A woman accepting responsibility for the care, nurture, stability and heart of the family.

One being held responsible for the over-all strength of the family. The other being held responsible for the way she supports his leadership. The stereotypical view of biblical family roles has the man dominating the family and the woman obeying his every wish. This concept is foreign to Scripture.

What God tells the man is to take Leadership. What God tells the woman is to find a way to follow that leadership without violating God’s Word or your conscience. In our society the men are either NOT providing a clear path, or they are VIOLATING the very basic principles of a sound family pattern, so as to frustrate any woman trying to do right.

All this is found in the choice of words God used. To the warrior and/or the employee, God says ‘Obey.’ To the wife, God says ‘Submit.’ These are two very different instructions. The first says: “Do What I Tell You!” The second says: Find A Way To Follow This Man’s Leadership.”

The translations of The Bible may mix this up by using the word ‘obey’ for both, but the context is usually different. In I Peter 3:6,  we read how that Sarah obeyed Abraham in calling him Lord. However, the Greek word is hupotasso = submit. When Sarah submitted it looked like obedience. Abraham may have taken it as obedience. But, in reality, she was giving the obedience out of her own desire to work with him and not against him.

The Womens’ Liberation Movement of the ’60’s stood up against what they saw as the arbitrary requirements of the traditional structure. These were women who did NOT want to honor God, or were woefully un-learned in the scriptures. Either way, they have done irreparable damage to our society, in the babies killed, the families decimated by divorce, abandoning their children to ‘kennels’ so they could be ‘fulfilled,’ and in asserting their Rights over their God-given Responsibilities.

Building on their success, the homosexual crowd is using the same reasoning to completely destroy The Family. They view themselves creating a different kind of family; a better family. However, the hand-writing is on the wall: The Family Is Dead! Long Live The New Family!

There are still men and women who are committed to doing it God’s Way. These folks are finding they must pull back from mainstream society in order to protect their family from it’s ravages. Ideally, The Church would be there to support them and encourage them. However, the visible Church has capitulated to the Culture, re-defining ‘church’ according to a more self-serving pattern. One that is devoid of real biblical instruction or corporate accountability.

Our children are growing up, either confused or completely without the training and instruction they will need to build a strong family for themselves. In this, The Enemy has been masterful. His signature statement: “Hath God Said,” is still ringing in our ears. Christians now believe God’s Plan for The Family is Bad and the World’s Plan is Good.

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