What do we know about babies? We know that when they are born, they come into this world helpless, fearful, hungry and completely selfish!
There isn’t a baby anywhere that didn’t demand all his / her needs be met…. NOW! One of the most troubling lessons a new mother has to learn is “How long do I let my baby cry?” Never? You are raising a Tyrant! Until I can’t take it anymore? You are raising a manipulator!
Babies must cry! In moderation, crying is good for them. Too much and they get sick and tend to regurgitate or gag. Rule of Thumb is 28 minutes. Long enough so they get the picture, short enough so they don’t hurt themselves or develop unnecessary anxieties.
We’re told a baby needs to learn they can’t have everything they want, when they want it, and letting them cry facilitates this. Bedtime is critical. Let them cry! Babies who are not permitted to cry themselves to sleep, generally take longer to learn about bedtimes and do not get good rest for several years.
Why don’t animals have these problems? Because animals operate according to instinct. Human beings operate according to Will and Training. Their Will is not only strong, it is absolutely Corrupt! When the Training is insufficient to compensate for this reality, you have a 3 year old Tyrant who will grow up to be worse!
Everyone used to know this about children.
Today, most people reading these words are already outraged!!
So, why did a 4 year old fall into a wild Gorilla Pen? The 15 foot drop didn’t seem to deter him. The railings that formed a visual cue that people should not get any closer, wasn’t an issue. His mother yelling at him to stay with her and not wander off, was not sufficient. All that mattered was he WANTED to get in there! And he did.
Bad Parenting? Perhaps. But, let’s not put too much blame on Mom. There were plenty of other people around who could have / should have physically interfered… but didn’t!
Why? Because, as a society, we have quite literally “thrown the baby out with the bathwater!” We live in a society that rejects the idea that babies are Stubborn, Rebellious, Headstrong, Willful and Destructive! We refuse to accept the Basic Principles of Human Life: that we are born with a ‘heart’ [not the pump — but the core orientation] that is ‘deceitful, above all things, and desperately wicked beyond anything anyone can imagine.’ [Jer 17:9]
That “foolishness is bound in the heart of a child and only the ‘rod of correction’ is sufficient to drive it out of him!” Prov 22:15
That the human heart can be hardened against Reason, Decency and All Things Good and Godly Ex 14:5
And we have been conditioned to “Mind Our Own Business!” “Not Get Involved!” “Not Interfere!”
When we look around at the evil in this world, we want to blame all sorts of things: poverty, mistreatment, chemical imbalances, ignorance, stress, lack of education, persecution, etc. However, there are notable life-stories of people who have overcome ALL these and accomplished great things!
The Bible places the blame squarely on the heart! Jesus said, “out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, lies, blasphemies.” Mt. 15:19 AND…if these things are not driven out of a child, by means of reproof, that child will grow up to shame and embarrass his/her mother.
Why Mom? Because Mothers are the ones who bond with children and have the greatest influence. Mothers are the natural ‘nurturers’ and ‘supporters.’ A child spends more time with Mom than with any other member of the family…. until recently. Today, it’s likely to be Granma….Who is, herself, a Mother!
Our Culture a) Rejected godly counsel and instruction to form an alternative form of “family.” Then b) Split that family up with No-Fault Divorce, Working Moms, Single Moms and all sorts of alternative forms of ‘family.’ Concluding by c) waging war against unborn children who had the audacity to show up at the most inconvenient of times!
Now? Apparently it’s “every man (child) for himself!” We refuse to spend the time and effort to raise up a child in the nurture of God, assume he / she is an adult at age 13, then defend our selfishness by pointing to all the (legitimate) limitations in our life, as though they simply appeared out of thin air, when we weren’t looking.
There was a time when a man wouldn’t marry until he was convinced he could take care of a family.
There was a time when a woman would accept responsibility for her actions and raise that child.
There was a time when children accepted responsibility for their actions / attitudes toward others.
There was a time when a Family pulled together, no matter what!
Today? If I’m uncomfortable, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, I have a Right to break all my vows, promises and commitments because “I owe it to myself!”
Today? If I’ve made a serious mistake, in marrying the wrong person, I have the Right to fix that!
Today? If I can’t make enough money to pay the bills, it’s the government’s responsibility! It’s not my fault for being foolish or short-sighted or selfish!
Today? If I’m with my friends and having a good time, it’s someone else’s job to watch the baby!
My wife and I were chided for NOT asking Grandparents to watch our children. We were in our early twenties and simply thought those children were our responsibility: if we couldn’t take them with us, we didn’t go! And Guess What? Nobody Died!
Children in America are suffering and dying because Adults are redefining the words and rules to create a more comfortable society…. for them! It’s not One Mother’s Fault! It’s ALL Mothers’ Fault! ALL Fathers’ Fault! ALL Leaders’ Fault!
Children are a precious heritage…. We need to raise them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord! And we need to do it TOGETHER!
Psychiatrists & Witchdoctors
E. Fuller Torrey (MD) is a Psychiatrist and Medical Researcher who has written 20 books and more than 200 lay and professional papers. One such book is entitled, “Witchdoctors and Psychiatrists: The Common Roots of Psychotherapy and It’s Future.”
The folks at PsychHeresy Awareness Letter highlighted some of Dr Torrey’s findings in their May-June, 2016 Newsletter. http://psychoheresy-aware.org
It’s not what you might think, simply reading the title. Dr. Torrey works through the realities of psychotherapy, comparing it with what witchdoctors are able to do, utilizing the same principles and techniques.
Those principles and techniques are social, emotional and therapeutic, working equally well in both worlds.
Dr. Torrey explains:
1. Psychotherapy is more about the patient than the practitioner.
2. The Four Basic Elements in each are the same.
3. The 500 different psychotherapies ALL work equally well even though they are contrary to one another.
He compares what seems to be radically different approaches to the issues that plague mankind, demonstrating the startling similarities in these seemingly dissimilar modalities.
In a Nutshell: It’s not about the type psychotherapy applied. It’s not about the technique used in applying them. It’s about the Person Applying The Help!
IF the patient believes you have The Answers / The Cure.
IF the patient believes you to be sincere and caring toward them.
IF the patient is satisfied that you agree with their worldview.
And IF the patient believes you have a grasp on what’s going on in their life.
Then there is what we might call Success.
Meaning the patient makes progress and the issues causing them pain subside, be it from psychotherapy or witchcraft!
We remember the TV Show: Frazier. Frazier and his brother, Niles, were psychiatrists trained in differing types of psychoanalyses. In truth, there are at least 500 differing forms, each one touted by those who truly believe in their ability to fix whatever problem the ‘client’ might have.
Dr. Torrey says it doesn’t matter! Not only are the therapies often contradictory, but they (in and of themselves) have little effect in the so-called healing process. What matters is that this person — Soul Doctor (psychologist) or Witchdoctor — knows who they are, cares about them, agrees with their view of life and offers them something they believe to be important.
If I had written this book, I would have been scorned for my lack of understanding and education! I am not a trained psychologist so I can’t possible know anything about this discipline.
What’s To Know? That there are over 500 differing / conflicting ideas about what’s going on and how to fix it? That their own studies have found 10 out of 10 practicing psychologists / psychiatrists cannot agree on the cause of the same presenting symptoms? That patients must commit to an almost unending program of Talk Therapy, revealing more and more of their fears, passions, weaknesses, etc. to strangers?
To accomplish what? Healing? NO! To find a way to live at peace with what they fear, despise, struggle with, hate!
Psychology is the study of the soul. The Mental Health community denies the soul’s existence.
Biological Psychiatrists and Behavioral Psychologists disagree vehemently, with one another
No psychologist or psychiatrist offers a Cure!
Generally psychologists & psychiatrists disagree with one another as to cause & therapeutic modality.
The psychological community is adding ‘Mental Disorders’ faster than you can keep up.
A Mental Disorder is a disorder of the mind. The mind is immaterial. They make it the brain!
If our brains are where decisions are made, then drugs or electric shocks can fix them!
The Bible says mans’ problem is sin!
The Bible says our decisions are made in the heart! [A non-physical part of our being]
The Bible understands that IF you do This, you will GET That!
The Bible understands that wrong thinking produces wrong behaviors, which cause bad feelings!
The Bible offers the only Cure: A Change of Heart!
Once The Heart Is Made New, The Attitudes & Behaviors of Life Follow And There Is Peace / Strength!
So….apparently you can go to a witchdoctor and, if you believe in him, trust him, you will find healing.
Or….you can go to a Mental Health Professional and, if you believe in him, trust him, you will find a way to live with what ails you.
Or….you can admit your sin…bow your heart before God…experience New Life…and live at peace.
I’m of the opinion that the Mental Health Industry pulls in billions of dollars every year. I haven’t been able to find the statistics, but it seems reasonable to assume, given their almost universal acceptance and presence in every aspect of American life.
What would be the easiest and quickest way to solve the vast majority of these problems? Drug everyone? Pass laws? Require parents to be licensed? Transfer the most important part of a child’s life to ‘professionals’ who would monitor and control for a large percentage their young lives… and on into adulthood?
Don’t think any of this is silly or extreme! ALL of this is currently in play, all over America. That our children are being drugged, in one way or another, has been reported for years. That parents are not equipped and need professional help is an almost universal truism. That children spend the greatest amount of their waking hours under the watchful eyes and professional control of government employees goes without saying.
The so-called “Modern American Classroom,” was designed as a psychological laboratory, by noted psychiatrist, Dr. John Dewey. He wrote and said how this was necessary, if we wanted to change the American culture into a more enlightened, humanist, society. Experts can trace the academic and moral decline of Americans back to these fundamental changes.
We’ve come a long way from those days. According to the latest Pew Research study, “traditional” two-parent households now account for less than 50% of American families. Whereas in 1960, 73% of children lived with two married parents in their first marriage, today only 46% are in this situation.
Whereas in 1960, 83% of people younger than 50 were in their first marriage, today 67% are.
Whereas in 1960, 9% of children were living in a single-parent home, today 26% are.
Whereas in 1960, just 5% of births occurred outside of marriage, today out-of-wedlock births stand at 40%.
And the racial divide in these social ills is great. Whereas 84% of Asian children and 78% of white children are living in a two-parent married household, only 38% of black children are in this situation (and only 22% of those are parents in their first marriage).
There are many reasons for this change in American society, but three major ones are:
– the apostasy and compromise of the churches,
– the public school system and its atheistic, amoral John Dewey agenda, and
– the pop culture with its “me, me, me” philosophy.
How do we ‘fix’ all this? We have opted for more lenient laws governing marriage, divorce, sex, violence, parental authority, children’s responsibility, etc. We don’t believe it’s anybody’s fault.
We have also found new drugs to calm the excitable ones and stimulate the morose. A 2013 Study, found that nearly 70 percent of Americans are on at least one prescription drug, and more than half receive at least two prescriptions.
Mayo Clinic researchers reported that antibiotics, antidepressants and painkiller opioids are the most common prescriptions given to Americans. Twenty percent of U.S. patients were also found to be on five or more prescription medications.
There Is A Solution! It Doesn’t Require Drugs OR Psychotherapy! But it’s far more detestable to 21st century Americans than any of these drugs. It’s called Personal Responsibility!
You grew up knowing that if you play with fire you WILL be burnt! Sow the seeds of irresponsibility and licentiousness and the “fruit” that springs from that will be your daily reminder of how foolish you were! That divorce you got? It wasn’t necessary. You could have waited until you were more mature. You could have listened to your family and friends. You could have been more discriminating in your choice of a mate.
It’s not the ‘system’ that’s unfair to people on the lower levels of society. The ‘system’ is unfair to ALL, regardless of where we are, just in different ways.
When you have 84% of Asian children and 78% of white children living in a two-parent married household, while only 38% of black children are in this situation (and only 22% of those are parents in their first marriage), what do YOU think is going to happen?. And how is the government going to fix that?
The fruit of holy separation is good and generational. The Bible says, Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;..And have NO fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them” (Eph 5:1, 11).
Think about what’s going on in this little scenario and consider what your motive would be. It’s not an academic test where you can pass or fail.
If you over-think it, you will go crazy.
Read this question. It is not a trick question. It is as it reads. No one I know has gotten it right.
A woman, while at the funeral of her own mother, met a guy whom she did not know. She thought this guy was amazing. She believed him to be her dream guy so much, that she fell in love with him right there, but never asked for his number and could not find him.
A few days later she killed her sister.
The Obvious Question: Why did she kill her sister?
ANSWER? She was hoping the guy would appear at the funeral, again.
If you answered correctly, you think like a psychopath!
This is reported to be a test by a famous American Psychologist used to test if one has the same mentality as a killer. Many arrested serial killers took part in the test and answered the question correctly.
If you did not…..Good for you!
If you did? Let me know so I can take you off my email list!
Three of them discuss hypnosis or hypnotic language, One is billed as “Clinical Wizardry,” and three focus on ‘Fantasy,’ ‘Sculpting and other non-verbal methods,’ and ‘Awakening the client to novel experiences and new perceptions of themselves.’
Oh! And each video costs $199.00
The ‘experts’ on this website suggest that a Master Therapist focuses not on The Problem presented, but on “creating an alternative reality, either through hypnosis, hypnotic words or verbal and non-verbal sculpting of the client’s perception of themselves.”
This is scary! What they’re saying is that the Counseling Session is NOT about addressing your problem, but about creating an atmosphere of hope or encouragement, through whatever means possible, so you feel better about yourself.
The Message is: We cannot fix your problem! We are not even going to try! We are simply going to try changing your mood and offer you an alternative feeling or perception that will lift your spirits or change the discussion.
Given enough time [read: ‘Sessions at $150 each’] your mood may be established at a higher [even artificial] level and you will be able to ‘cope’ with life better.
Apparently the essence of therapy [according to this publication] is the relationship between counselor and counselee. They actually say: “The greatest gift to the client with virtually any problem is a focused, curious, empathetic listener.”
Did I mention hypnosis? Hypnosis is not simply a Parlor Trick. It’s a real thing! It is a technique whereby a person is lulled into an altered state of consciousness. The ‘state’ can be moderate or full-blown! In either case, the person hypnotized is NOT making the decisions. Someone else is doing that.
How many times have you done something or said something you [later] can’t imagine you did? In some cases it was simply the environment that facilitated it. In other cases it was a person or an event. Whatever it was, you got caught up in the mood or the feelings and did something contrary to your value system.
This is a mild form of hypnosis, where something other than your conscious mind is making the decision. Counselors are being trained to do this. They are being encouraged to change your feelings / attitudes about yourself and/or about the situation. Some are using Classic Hypnosis, others are simply manipulating your conscious mind with their personality or words.
These practitioners [and surely it is not all] are successful in changing how you feel. Keep in mind, people seek out counseling because of how they feel! Changing our perception of the circumstance or the value judgment can make us feel better. The counselor who is able to do that is considered “Good.”
What about the ‘counselor’ that makes us feel “Bad?” Who would that be? The one who pulls out the Rule Book of Life and points to a principle you have violated! A violation which has precipitated behaviors inconsistent with a) your commitments, or b) societal standards of good and bad.
This ‘counselor’ is “Bad!” Not helpful. He/She is someone who clearly doesn’t know what they’re doing. We are not going back to his person.
What if you are trying to earn a living in the counseling field, which philosophy would you choose? What if you were a Christian Counselor? Are you starting to see The Problem?
The ‘Wise Pastor’ is aware of this dynamic and has learned to ‘refer’ people to trained professional counselors. Anything less will open him up to gossip among parishioners as to how insensitive he is, or how he really doesn’t know what he’s doing!
What’s he doing? He’s providing The Only Help we need: God’s Word, applied by God’s Holy Spirit. But that doesn’t make me feel better, it makes me feel worse!
Are you starting to understand the Charismatic Movement and/or the Contemporary, Seeker Sensitive, Movement?