Where Did I Go Wrong?

Life is about choices. Choices are about values. Values are about the Heart.
The ‘Heart’ is about what’s important to us; what we view as necessary.
The Bible uses the word ‘heart’ to describe that which is Basic to What / Who we are.

The Bible declares our ‘heart’ to be Deceitful; Wicked; Hard; Foolish; Haughty
[Prov 12:20; 15:14; Pro 18:12; 22:15; Jer. 17:10]
The Bible ascribes my emotions to the Heart
The Bible describes the Heart as the place where decisions are made.
The Bible declares the Heart’s hatred of Instruction and Reproof
The Bible declares the heart to be ‘deceitful & desperately wicked, beyond anything we can imagine.
The Bible declares: If I regard iniquity in my heart…. the Lord will NOT hear me Ps 66:18
The Lord looketh on the heart, not on the outward appearance, as do men. I Sam 16:7
When God judges men, He is said to Try The Heart, not simply our deeds I Chron 29:17
The Bible declares God able to ‘Turn’ a heart…. one way or another. Ezra 6:22
To ‘Give Understanding To The Heart’ Job 38:36
God “Knows the secrets of” my Heart Ps 44:21

According to Jesus, when evil pours out of a person (words, thoughts, actions) it is flowing from the heart [evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, and such like] Jesus: [Mark 7:21] Rest assured, where these things exist, The Word of God is able to Discern and Distinguish the thoughts and intents of that heart. [Heb. 4:12]

The Statues of God are said to ‘Rejoice’ the heart Ps 19:8
And when a person Repents & Believes on The Lord Jesus Christ… It is from The Heart [Rom. 10:10]

Life on this Earth is about Choices.
The Choices of life influence & direct everything about us.
A seemingly insignificant choice, early in life, can rise up and cut short our life on Earth.
A series of choices will direct our path in ways we do not understand, later on.
Choices made WITHOUT regard to God Will Not / Cannot be ultimately Good.
Why? Because there is nothing IN us / ABOUT us that is inherently Good/ Right / Godly.
Our Values are either Godly or Ungodly. There are No Neutral Values.
We believe our choices come from some inherent ability to know what’s best, when the unwaivering and unyielding reality is, they come from our own Selfish Desires.

Selfish? What else is there, if God is NOT being consulted?
It is ‘Self’ that drives our choices, unless there is some External Knowledge, Influence or Power to Guard, Guide or Inhibit them. The child stubbornly believes their choices are better than that of their parents, while the teenager believes their values / choices are better than that of society! And the ‘Natural Man’ believes his values / choices are better / wiser than God’s!

The Natural man views The God of The Bible as a Cosmic “KillJoy!” A concept created by men who never want anyone to have Fun or be Happy. The Christian warns against immoral or foolish choices. The Natural Man scoffs, believing the Christian to have ‘created’ moral limitations, where there are none.

‘Who says your interpretation of The Bible is correct?’
‘Who says your value system is Right or Better?’
‘I know tons of people who live happy, productive lives, without YOUR God!’
‘Your God has never brought peace nor happiness into My Life, only Restriction and Grief!’
And on it goes.

Today…. The Secularist rails against the moral limitations imposed by Christians.
The Charismatic rails against the biblical limitations imposed by Literalists!
The Contemporaries rail against the Prudishness and Dullness of Biblical Worship!
The Catholic can do as he please, then go to Confession, Receive Forgiveness from a Priest and Take Communion.
The Liberals simply seek to be Proper and Ecumenical.
Another Group seem to think everything will be fine if you simply pray the Sinner’s Prayer!
The Secularist is just Fine! He / she needs None of this to be happy and productive, in this world! And Technically – In a Limited Way? He’s Right. The Operative Phrase Being: “In This World!”
And So It Goes!

The Moral Issues of the past have faded, as men and women have locked into their own Values…. Justifying the old Battle Cries against Alcohol and Sex as either passe or your Grandfather’s Values. We moved on to killing babies and justifying homosexuality. Today it’s Transgenderism! Gender is now a matter of Brain Chemistry not DNA.

One woman wrote to me….in response to my Commentary re: this issue:
YOUR ARGUMENT IS FLAWED! AGE is not the same as the criteria for GENDER! Of course, I Have No Idea what that means, in part because I didn’t suggest this! She maintains that ‘Gender refers to the brain and how it processes information.’ That Gender is not Sex. “These things are being studied and many of your questions have been answer, like millions of times!” No Citation!

How Do You Debate Someone Like This? You Don’t! You pray for them. If God does not open their understanding, they will Never ‘Get it!’ Why? Because the natural heart is Deceitful. [It deceives itself First] And it is Desperately Wicked, beyond anything anyone can imagine or describe. These are Two Concepts Human Beings Neither Understand nor Like! Why? Because the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked….beyond human understanding! Jer 17:10

“Who’s To Say YOUR Value System / YOUR Lifestyle is Right?” “I know many people who live happy / productive lives, all the while rejecting your values!” Start your Debate with this concept and see how far you get! It is literally a Non Starter! There’s nowhere to go with this! The person espousing this philosophy is either foolish, stubborn, ignorant or stupid! The Avg IQ in America is 98, however, none of this is about Intelligence, it’s about Selfishness.

And this is exactly where many / most people begin. It is always YOUR beliefs! YOUR values! YOUR understanding of God! It is almost Never something both of you can discuss, intelligently. Why? Because it’s NOT an intellectual issue…. It’s emotional; it’s visceral; it’s spiritual, and it’s a value system straight from the human heart…. with very little else influencing the realities.

Commonly? Well That’s Your God! Where do you go with this? To your knees! Unless God Opens That Heart, It Will Continue To Descend Into Darkness. Darkness breeds Despair; the despair of hopelessness, as this lifestyle demonstrates it’s Source. And this is where MOST people live! Intelligent people! Otherwise good people! Family, Friends, Neighbors, Workmates, Teachers, Preachers!!!

And not because they’re mentally incapable. It’s not a matter of intellect…. It’s a matter of heart! I DON’T WANT GOD IN MY LIFE…THAT WAY! Translation? I WANT TO BE MY OWN GOD!! Isn’t this what Adam was saying?

This Is The Heart / the Essence of Sin!!

Marriage & How To Live It [According To God]

READ I Cor 7:1-17
This is The Heart of what God tells us about Marriage & How To Live it.

Biblically: Men are the ‘head’/protector/spiritual leader/of the Family. That the world is structured in opposition to this biblical truism should be enough to explain:
….the rise in divorce
….the increase in couples simply living together
….the arrival of The Womens’ Lib Philosophy / Movement
….the increase in all forms of domestic violence
….the dysfunction of The Family
….the rise of children who largely live independent lives
….the rise of sexual violence
….the legalization of abortion & gov’t support
….the current disdain for the Institution of ‘Marriage’

Moving forward, our culture is headed for a significantly more dangerous and less godly reality. The ‘Studies’ show a slight trend downward…. statistically, from 2004 to 2014. Given the reality that Catholicism has never preached ANY form of biblical salvation….
That Protestantism has been trending away from biblical salvation for the last 100 years….
That Evangelicalism has become Doctrinally weak and/or confused….
That the Contemporaries have taken over, in terms of numbers…
And that the popular & public Charismatics have become dangerously silly and doctrinally perverse…
What Else Could We Expect? Statistically, 75% of Americans claim to be Christian. But what does that really mean? Ans: NOTHING!

The number of Americans who are biblical Christians is probably in single digits. And the majority of these appear NOT to have a practical view of their Faith….. Meaning? They are largely biblically ignorant.

I’ve seen them, talked with them, watched them live, listened to how they speak, when angry or seeking to make an emotional point!
I’ve seen how they treat their wives…..employers….neighbors.
I’ve heard how they talk to their children….discipline them.
I’ve watched how different they are in Church as opposed to the job site.
I’ve seen the steep INcline of Divorce among professing Christians.

George Barna (2009)
Born again Christians are more likely than others to experience a divorce! Even more disturbing, perhaps, is that when those individuals experience a divorce many of them feel their community of faith provides rejection rather than support and healing.

ME: It may be due to what their Church teaches on divorce. Christians can be truly Judgmental….actually believing divorce to be a greater sin than the daily abuse being heaped on one another while staying married. Truth? Sin is Sin….. Whether it’s a man neglecting the needs of his Wife or a Wife in competition with her Husband.

The research also raises questions regarding the effectiveness of how churches minister to families. The ultimate responsibility for a marriage belongs to the husband and wife, but the high incidence of divorce within the Christian community challenges the idea that churches provide truly practical and life-changing support for marriages.”

Men are to dwell with their wife in an understanding way. Men are to love their wives the way Christ loves The Church. There Is Always The Possibility The Woman Is Simply Rebellious / Uncaring /Unloving! But it is not generally the case…. Statistically, the rate of divorce is lower (by half) among older Americans (18%) than among younger (Boomers: 34% Builders: 37%). And “Born Again” Christians have the highest, among ‘Christians’ @ 27%. Jews are higher: 30% And Atheists / Agnostics the lowest @ 21%

The numbers may be a little higher now….these statistics are 8 years old. And a larger number than ever are simply NOT marrying. No doubt many of them split up, as well. In the mix are the children, who are not only being abused by this fact, but trained to expect divorce as a normal / natural solution to disagreement and/or abuse.

NOTE: God Established Marriage! Gen. 2:18 He said it was not good for a man to be alone!! He said men were to honor, protect and provide spiritual leadership to the woman…..and the family. Those in the divorced ranks….and many others (even in good churches)…. are not seeing this ‘protection’ … this ‘spiritual leadership’ … this emotional, physical, spiritual stability in their marriages. Some bail out at the first signs. Others take years to make this decision….. not wanting to divorce. While others tolerate abuse for the sake of the children.

NOTE: It’s not always the man! However, God still holds the man accountable for a marriage that doesn’t last!! Women are never told (by God) to love their husbands!! The totality of responsibility falls to the male of the species. Ques: Is YOUR wife happy in her marriage? Well, maybe not happy, but is she comfortable / able to ignore the harshness or loneliness. Yes…. Loneliness! Many women are lonely in their marriages.
Why? Because their men have no idea what they need / want. And some who actually DO….. make little effort to meet those needs.

Are You Discouraged Yet? All this sounds overwhelming…. More than anyone could accomplish. But God says that’s YOUR JOB! Whose Job? The Man’s Job! You see God holds the man responsible for the stability, strength and security of The Family!! A large and growing number of women disagree. Their ‘arms’ are too short to fight with God!

And the average man could care less! Oh, he says he cares…. He thinks he cares…. But ask his wife. Women went to work, largely, due to the mans’ out-of-touch attitude. I was there! 1960’s….. A large portion of women did NOT want to go to work! They felt they had no choice!! Men were happy with a roof over their head, 3 meals a day, a warm bed and TV. (largely sports) Women wanted more…. Much more!

And the average man didn’t have a clue as to what that was!
Do You! Ask Your Wife!

1. Men and Women Are Different! At their Core!
…..Women think, evaluate, consider, plan and execute life differently
2. Women Know Their Men…. Men Have No Idea Who This Woman Is!
…..What makes her feel secure? What makes her happy? Secure?
3. No Intelligent, Rational Human Being Wants To Fight All The Time!
…..Unless you married an idiot, You’ve Got A Problem!
…..And God hold the man responsible…. So, Men: Fix IT!
4. Majority of Americans Have No Idea How To ‘Fix It!’
…..We through money at problems. We make promises.
…..We agree to counseling. None of this actually works!!

The problem in the average household is not found in the attitudes and behaviors. It is found in the Heart! The self-centered, arrogant, ignorant heart.

TRUTH? For most of us, it’s the Heart that must change…. not the behaviors. I spent over 30 years counseling people…. in formal as well as informal settings…..and my experience taught me that most people do NOT want to fix The Problem! They simply want the energy, tension, anger, frustration to go away. And they want that without changing Anything about themselves.

You see…. As far as we are concerned, it’s almost always THE OTHER PERSON’S PROBLEM!

Gender Dysphoria Or Our Social Descent Into ‘Foolish Imaginations?’

At a recent Heritage Foundation forum [Early Oct., 2017] about Gender Transitioning, Dr. Michelle Cretella went on a lengthy rant about how it is child abuse to indulge children who are gender-confused by helping them “transition” to the gender they think they are.

Cretella said:
“Chemical castration is what you’re doing when you put any biologically normal child on puberty blockers. It’s treating puberty like a disease, arresting a normal process which is critical to normal development and bad for kids. Sterilization? Not good for kids. Mastectomy at 16? Not good! Depression and/or Anxiety is The Usual (Ultimate) Response! Suicidal Depression Not Unusual!

Indoctrinating pre-school kids with the lie that you can be trapped in the wrong body is disrupting their normal reality-testing and cognitive development. Those things are abusive. 

As to the studies, there are two she says she is aware of that claim affirming your child’s gender confusion is good for them. However…..Five things are either assumed or imposed:

1. The assumption that coaching a child into a fixed-false belief is mentally healthy. Science doesn’t allow you to assume this conclusion.
2. The studies on this subject are extremely small.
3. These studies are very short term.
4. The control group of “mentally healthy children” are the siblings, most of whom are siblings of the trans-identifying child.
5. The parents were the ones evaluating the mental health of the children.

1. Paul, a computer programmer who is currently unemployed, is 38 years old and in the process of “detransitioning,” undoing steps towards the sex change he began a decade ago.

Before “transitioning” from male to female, Paul struggled with dysphoria for years. He remembers his high school days filled with shame over his “girlish” interests and peer groups and struggling with gynecomastia  (swollen breast tissue in males), isolation, and confusion.

When Paul first learned about transgenderism from an article in his student newspaper, he felt he had found the missing piece. “I wasn’t deranged or simply gay, but instead I misunderstood what a ‘woman’ was, …..that the term was entirely social, and that my failure to be accepted as a man was because I was really a woman.”

Paul never viewed his transformation as a sex change, but as an escape from his gender. After moving to San Francisco in search of community and acceptance, Paul, uninsured, stumbled across a community health clinic. Upon his first visit, he was prescribed male-to-female hormones, given very little information on the risks and potential side effects, and told “not to worry” whenever he expressed concern about drugs or long-term side effects.

This ‘Therapy’ simply created more problems….physically and emotionally. Paul has been officially diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and learned that he falls on the autism spectrum. His treatment consisted of ‘Transition Guides’ [cartoon-type literature] and hormones.

This is not science…… It is ideology masquerading as science.
Paul’s advice to children looking to transition? “Don’t!”

2. Taylor Changes His Mind
Another young man, [Taylor] is a student who began transitioning at the age of 23. He reports: It started simply. “All it took was self-declaration. The first thing I did was change my name.” “I wore makeup and committed to growing my hair out and wore more feminine clothing.

All of the changes were superficial and followed pretty basic stereotypes of how women appear to the male gaze.” After a year of living with a feminine name and pronouns, Taylor began hormone therapy. My mental health was very poor at the time and I was very much socially isolated. I felt I could either try living as a woman or else I wanted to kill myself.”

Not finding satisfaction in his new identity, Taylor began the detransition process a year later, quitting hormones and reverting back to a masculine expression of self.

He described his disappointment in the system. “I wish I had been challenged by a doctor,” he says. “I went to an endocrinologist, who gave me a prescription on the first visit, before my blood work results even came back. ‘It’ll be fine, congratulations!’ was the Doctor’s attitude.

The Doctor should’ve challenged me.”

Taylor’s advice to those questioning themselves is ominous: “Our physical bodies, with genitalia and chromosomes, exist in reality, and part of having a body is hating your body. You are taught to hate your body no matter who you are, male or female, and you are falling for it.”

3. Another Case:
Trans teen idol Jazz Jennings speaks freely about the glamour of embracing one’s self, but little has been published on the complications regarding Jazz’s bottom surgery.

His doctors said there wasn’t enough “raw material” to work with due to Jazz’s early consumption of puberty blockers, which stunted genitalia formation. Undergoing gender reassignment is regarded as the Holy Grail for those struggling with their sex. When the potentially fatal outcomes are not adequately tracked, however, shouldn’t honesty be the priority when speaking about the lifelong effects of the transition process?

God’s Word? “Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened” Romans 1:21

Children are ‘foolish’ by nature. What About The Parents? The commitment to ‘foolishness’ [by God’s definition] ‘darkens’ [clouds; confuses] the ‘heart’ [source of thoughts, decisions], leading to ‘foolishness’ [wickedness] which clouds the mind / heart regarding spiritual things. From there things get more confusing and the spiritual trajectory is downhill.

Some names and identifying details have been changed to protect individuals’ privacy.

Why Is Homosexuality Exploding Among Young Adults?

Paul & Kirk Cameron have written to help explain why our society is becoming so overtly homosexual.

They say: Homosexuality is exploding among U.S. teens. Ditto for younger adults. Over the last decade, the relative proportion of U.S. teenagers claiming to be homosexual has increased 85%. The relative proportion who have not made up their minds about embracing homosexuality has increased 53%. While those claiming interest only in the opposite sex has dropped 6%.

What’s Going On? The Secularists and The Humanists want you to believe that this is a normal, natural evolution. Is this true? Or is this a sophisticated Marketing Ploy? The facts indicate something far more insidious.

Our’s is the first society that has ever marketed homosexuality to its youth. Gay Pride Parades… TV…. NEWS…. Disney… The Bathroom Issue. And now the CDC is recommending schools have gay/straight clubs. Our Government, Our Media, Our Education System and even Some of Our Churches are either touting homosexual behavior or accepting of it. In our High Schools, there is an Explosion of homosexuality, according to a 25-year Study by the Centers for Disease Control.
Of the 16 million U.S. high-school students today, an extra million are either homosexual or heading in that direction!

A Gallup report in 2012, indicated that 43% of all adult LGTBs were aged 18 to 36. In 2016, that number had swelled to 58%. We’ve gone from 5.8% of all adults to 7.3% in a veritable twinkling – on pace for 10% of adults to be potentially dabbling in homosexuality by our next presidential election!

Ten percent seems to be the Magic Number to begin hawking the idea that these people are being discriminated against; that their chosen sexual proclivity is dangerous, destructive and completely unnatural, apparently has no bearing on the socio-political marketing scheme.

Gallup reports that the majority of homosexuals 20 years ago were men – 55% now are women. By painting gays as “victims” under the “civil rights” umbrella, these efforts have many girls “feeling sorry for” lesbians in the same manner they use to rescue wayward guys.

Our birthrate is falling – it’s already below the 2.1 children-per-woman needed for a stable society — Our Morals are disintegrating.

Are people born Homosexual? The CDC has been surveying and tracking “Youth Risk Behavior” since 1991. In 2001-09, 92.1% of U.S. high school students said they were only sexually interested in the opposite sex. In 2015 (the last year for which we have data), 86.5% did – that’s 6% fewer, or 900,000 kids.

A decade ago 5.1% (or 800,000) said they were sexually interested in their own sex;
in 2015, 1.5 million (an additional 704,000 more) said so – an increase of 84.2%. And where 2.6% of kids in the 2001-9 survey said they were unsure of their sexual identity, 4% made the same report in 2015 – an increase of 53%.

“The resolutions of the American Psychiatric and American Psychological Associations calling for equality or near equality of treatment of professionals and clients with either homo or hetero orientations, [are evidence of] further movement toward equality of the sexual orientations.

What our grandparent’s generation tried to protect kids from is now being taught as a “civil right” and an “obligation to support and join with sexual minorities.”
Our youth are obeying.

Read more at http://www.wnd.com/

Parents Beware! The Enemy Never Rests!


The story is about a former Special Forces Operator who wanted to DO something worthwhile, in his “Next Life”

Then Someone told him about H.E.R.O.
The Human Exploitation Rescue Operative (HERO) Child-Rescue Corps is a program developed by U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement’s (ICE) Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) and U.S. Special Operations Command (SOCOM) in conjunction with the National Association to Protect Children.

The HERO Child-Rescue Corps Program is designed for wounded, injured and ill Special Operations Forces to receive training in high-tech computer forensics and law enforcement skills, to assist federal agents in the fight against online child sexual exploitation.

Upon successful completion of the program, HERO interns have the knowledge, skills and experience to apply for careers with federal, state and local police agencies, and other organizations, in the field of computer forensics.

After his 10-month unpaid internship, Rock joined the Department of Homeland Security as a computer forensic analyst. Since he specializes in finding child porn, Rock is the guy who analyzes the crime scene. And as stomach-churning and heartbreaking as it may be, part of Rock’s job is to look through smartphones and computers for child pornography and identify the crime.

Rock has seen — and continues to see — some absolutely horrific things.

“I’ve watched videos from newborns to teenagers getting molested or sexually assaulted. When asked about how big of a problem child pornography is. Rock’s answer was quite unsettling.

He Said: “When I was in training, they pulled up a live map of the U.S. where a little red dot popped up every time someone downloaded child porn in the United States. In just fifteen minutes, the entire map was red.”

Rock pulled back the curtain on one way child pornographers communicate with each other openly. “It isn’t just downloading child porn, though. People will go to these dark chatrooms on the open internet, and they will offer their kids to each other. They will say things like, ‘I have a two-year-old son and a four-year-old daughter,’ and they will then offer them.”

It gets even more sickening than that. “People will go out and have kids just because they want a child to molest, or they want a kid at home to make child pornography with.”

Child pornography isn’t a crime isolated to a particular demographic, either.

“We will go to someone’s house, and we will have a ton of agents there. And people will come outside and say, ‘what are you doing here? He didn’t do anything!’ It happens at the trailer park, the house in the suburbs, or the mansion on the hill,” Rock stated.

“You could live in a neighborhood filled with millionaires and not know there three people just on your street who are huge into child pornography.” “It could be the mechanic at Jiffy Lube or a neurosurgeon. There are even some who will become dentists and pediatricians In Order To so have more access to children. They will dedicate their entire life to being able to be around more kids for the purpose of child pornography.”

Rock opened up about the level of disturbing sophistication some child pornographers have. “Tech savvy child pornographers can hack your webcam on your computer, your smartphone, your iPad, even the baby monitor camera. I keep a piece of tape over my webcam at all times.”

According to Rock, the Department of Homeland Security and other government agencies are fighting child pornography around the clock, but they “barely make a dent” because it’s such a massive issue.

“It’s a growing problem because technology keeps advancing and more and more countries are coming online,” Rock emphasized.With how significant an issue it is, Rock recommends for parents to monitor how their kids use technology.

He says, “Educate yourselves more and your children on what to watch out for, they could be talking to someone online who claims to a 15 or 16-year-old, but in reality that’s a 45-year-old child pornography user who wants to make them a victim.”

Rock added, “Bad guys are pretty smart. they know what they’re doing, and many times, it’s easy to fall for their tricks.”